✨Joy Doesn't Shout. It Whispers.
- Arlene Gaylord
- Apr 4
- 1 min read
Happiness isn’t about intensity—it’s about consistency.
That’s what this morning's calendar entry reminded me of today.
Positive psychology teaches us about learned optimism—the idea that we can train our brains to notice and savor the good. It encourages us to shift our focus away from the infrequent, breathtaking moments that often capture our attention, such as monumental achievements or extraordinary events, and instead, to appreciate the daily, steady delights that surround us.
Here are three small joys that light up my days:
☕ Morning coffee chats with my 82-year-old mom—her stories, her laughter, her wisdom.
🐾 Walks with my husband and our dog, soaking in the spring air and each other’s company.
🛋️ Family quiet couch time with our daughter with the 📺 off —laptops (or 📱) open, all occupied, but side by side in unspoken connection.
Choosing Joy is a DAILY PRACTICE -- just like building a muscle it strenghtens with intention, repetition and a dash of patience.
3 simple ways to increase the frequency of joy (not just the intensity):
➕ Notice the good.
Our brains are wired to spot threats—counter that by catching joy in the act.
➕ Name it.
Saying out loud (or writing down) what you’re grateful for makes it more real.
➕ Nurture small rituals.
Whether it’s coffee, walks, or quiet moments, repetition builds resilience.
Happiness isn’t a high—it’s a hum. And I’m learning to lean into that rhythm.
What are the tiny joys you’re savoring today?
Inspired by Adam Grant’s Something to Think About Calendar.
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